Change Your Story, Change Your Brain

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Do you feel as if someone else is writing the story of your life? Learn to program your brain to live with purpose. Change Your Story: Change Your Brain is a guide to living more fully in the present moment. As you live with greater intention, you can literally change the structure of your brain.

“Even a few daily moments of mindfulness can retrain the nervous system to secrete wellness-promoting chemicals and revel in the positive aspects of our relationships. With practice, of course, the brain becomes even more efficient at accomplishing this.” Dr. Linda Miles,  Change Your Story: Change Your Brain

What people are saying about the book…

“Bravo! Dr. Linda Miles provides great insights and strategies to deal with loss and pain through the practice of mindfulness. Anyone who is struggling in life or dealing with a major life transition will benefit from her book. I am a doctor and certified divorce coach, this book will be one of my resources I use for my clients. The title ‘Change Your Story, Change Your Brain’ says it all and this book can help anyone recover and move on to a healthier happier life. Thank you Dr. Linda Miles!” – Dr. Amy Botwinick

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How Couples Can Support Each Other During the Holidays

Are you dreading family get-togethers this holiday season? Are you bracing yourself for holiday stress? Strained relationships or family dysfunction can suck the joy out of your holidays.

In this video segment, Dr Linda Miles talks about how couples can support each other during the hectic holidays. Family dynamics during the holidays can be taxing. Here are some ideas for how you can help each other through them.

Read an excerpt of “Change Your Story: Change Your Brain” on Amazon.

Dr. Linda Miles is a leading expert on relationships and mindfulness. She is a psychotherapist, author, media expert and speaker. She has studied and worked in her field of counseling psychology for over 30 years and often speaks about mindfulness, stress reduction, mental health and relationships. Dr. Miles is personable and accessible in her books, articles and talks about how mindfulness and loving kindness can positively change your brain, your chemistry and your life. She can be reached at or followed on Twitter.

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Coping with Dysfunctional Families During the Holidays

Do you have one of those dysfunctional families? Do holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas easily turn contentious when certain family members get together? Does this make you dread the holidays?

In this video, Dr. Linda Miles shares insights on how to cope with bad behavior from family  members during the holidays. The behaviors that are a problem are often automatic. If a family is dysfunctional, it’s easy to get swept up in these behaviors. If you feel like freezing or fighting in bad family situations during the holidays, here are a few things you can do.

Read an excerpt of “Change Your Story: Change Your Brain” on Amazon.

Dr. Linda Miles is a leading expert on relationships and mindfulness. She is a psychotherapist, author, media expert and speaker. She has studied and worked in her field of counseling psychology for over 30 years and often speaks about mindfulness, stress reduction, mental health and relationships. Dr. Miles is personable and accessible in her books, articles and talks about how mindfulness and loving kindness can positively change your brain, your chemistry and your life. She can be reached at or followed on Twitter.


Peace and Joy at Thanksgiving

Peace, joy, and gratitude – feelings we all wish for, but ones that can be hard to come by in our stressful world. When we’re bombarded with our own negative thoughts, it can make us feel as though we’re in a self-made prison of blame and judgments, making it feel impossible to relish the good in our lives.

During holidays with family (like Thanksgiving) old hurts and negative patterns can be triggered. A practice of mindful awareness can help to retain inner peace in the midst of old reminders. It is important to keep personal boundaries and retain inner light in the midst of triggers fro suffering.

Happiness has a biological basis, and research shows that we can take steps toward creating a positive and healthy mental space, despite the stresses of living in a demanding, technology-driven existence.

By actively exercising kindness and appreciation, we can promote the brain’s natural production of oxytocin and dopamine- two chemicals that help us feel pleasure and well-being, while decreasing the secretion of adrenaline and cortisol, which make us feel agitation and stress. By focusing on simple pleasures and practicing a mindfulness of the present moment, we can get out of our own heads and into the world around us, allowing for an increased awareness and connectivity to the blessings and positivism in our lives.

If you find yourself in a negative dance from the past, take time to regroup, take a walk, write or find other ways to take time out until you can feel centered again.After you calm down choose to celebrate the moment in constructive ways…help in a food kitchen, visit elderly relatives or old friends. Refuse to repeat the old family dramas that are hurtful to you.

It’s encouraging to know that learning mindfulness is possible. Ups and downs, joys and stresses, and hopes and expectations can all guide us to learn to take better care of ourselves and redefine the way we think about ourselves and others, which in turn changes our perception of the world around us. As neuroscientist Dr. Wayne Drevets attests, “In the brain, practice makes permanent.” If you would like to try some practices to foster your own peace of mind, here are some suggestions:

1. Focus on your breathing. When breathing in, think, “be.” When breathing out, think, “calm.” Breathe in and out slowly and purposefully.

2. Spend 30 seconds (or more) allowing your attention and senses to be fully in the present. Focus on simple, tactile pleasures; the scent of pine needles on a tree, a fabric’s texture against your fingers, or the taste and aroma of homemade bread.

3. Label your negative thoughts.  Categorize them as “judgment,” “fear,” or “reliving the past,” as they pass through your mind.  Then, redirect your attention back to the here and now.

4. Understand that you may have been programmed to engage in a negative way of thinking, and with this understanding, recognize that you have the choice to turn toward positivity instead. Many of us come to realize negativity has somehow become our “default” way of thinking, and we had been moving through life on autopilot.

Work on generating those positive chemicals: oxytocin and dopamine. Repeat in your mind:

  • May I be at peace
  • May I be healed
  • May I send out loving kindness to others
  • May you be at peace
  • May you be healed
  • May you be filled with loving kindness

5. Notice when you feel moments of joy, and focus on what brought you that joy.

6. Notice when you feel jealous or resentful and ask yourself why that happened. If a negative thought finds its way through, simply notice and acknowledge that thought, then return to the moment.

8.   Forgive yourself.  Say, “For the ways I was jealous or resentful, may I forgive myself.”

9.   Give appreciation to yourself.  Appreciate when you have offered kindness and love to others.

10. Notice the many blessing around you.  Consider writing down these blessings as the day ends.

11. Intend to look for joy, love, and miracles around you.  If you have trouble noticing such things, ask yourself why.

12. Set “mindfulness alerts” as reminders to stop during the day and experience the moment.

Dr. Linda MilesDr. Linda Miles is a leading expert on relationships and mindfulness. She is a psychotherapist, author, media expert and speaker. She has studied and worked in her field of counseling psychology for over 30 years and often speaks about mindfulness, stress reduction, mental health and relationships. Dr. Miles is personable and accessible in her books, articles and talks about how mindfulness and loving kindness can positively change your brain, your chemistry and your life. She can be reached at or followed on Twitter.


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Feeling Stuck? Take This Quick Reality Check

The Mental Codes

Are you feeling stuck in your life? Are you feeling as if you can’t move forward? This is caused by fear.  Fear actually isn’t real. You can’t be fearful about the past, so fear lives in the future. It hasn’t happened yet, so it isn’t real.

Conduct a Reality Check

Conducting a reality check can help you identify the fear and then reduce its impact on your life so you can move forward.

Step 1: Identify Your Fear. Are you afraid of failure? Success? Homelessness? Death? Loneliness? Embarrassment? Etc? If you’re not sure what the fear is, look for where you’re experiencing stress. Where there is stress, there is fear.

Stressors are the areas in which you are. Remember, you’re only going to rise to the level of your greatest fear.

Step 2: Identify where you think the fear came from. Don’t get hung up if you can’t figure out where it came from, but see if you can remember where it started. If you can’t remember, move on to step 3.

Step 3: Ask  yourself, “If this fear came true today, in my life what would happen to me?” Write this out. Writing will empty your subconscious mind. What would happen to you if this fear became real today? Then if that part came true, what would happen? Take it all the way… go to death… and beyond. Play with your fear. This takes the electrical charge off the fear in your head. You want to diminish the electrical charge that fear has on your life because it’s distorting everything.

Once you’ve released the fear, you clear a path to start moving forward again.

To learn more about the mind and how it works, get your copy of “The Mental Codes.”

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Are Emotional Addictions Messing Up Your Life?

The Mental CodesFrom The Mental Codes by Dr. Michael J. Duckett

Have you ever wondered why the same problems keep coming up for you in your life? Did you know it could be that you are addicted to the emotions certain habits and patterns produce? Yes, we can even be addicted to negative emotions. Here’s how it works. This is an excerpt from my book The Mental Codes.

“Mental Codes are programmed thoughts that are emotionally based, habitually repeated, and dictate our behavior. A Mental Code can keep a person stuck at a specific level of life restricting progress and distorting reality.

When there is a distortion of your reality, it prevents you from making sound decisions that will produce your desired results. Instead, you may make illogical choices that will continue to feed your emotional addiction.

With your less than desirable choices feeding your emotional addictions, problems continue to perpetuate over and over again. Soon a person may believe life is nothing but problems without recognizing that she is actually creating the confusion through her Mental Codes.

Judy landed another new job with a substantial increase in salary. At first thought, Judy was happy with the additional income because it meant she would be able to pay down some of her outstanding debt. After working for three months, Judy did not pay down any of her debt. As a matter of fact, she owed more than she did before her significant raise.

Judy’s Mental Codes were programmed to be financially broke. Regardless of the amount of money that would come into her life, she would always make sure she spent more. After teaching Judy the BioNeuro Technique for reprogramming her Mental Codes, she began to embrace the fact that money was a good thing and she was able to accumulate a large sum of it.

When a person’s Mental Codes are programmed toward a specific thing, the individual develops habits to continue the emotional addiction. Judy’s addiction was financial stress. The more debt she created, the more financial stress occurred. The increased stress caused her mind to increase the brain chemicals for that emotion and soon it became part of her normal life.

So it is the brain’s chemicals, just as it is with any drug, that produces the person’s addiction and the emotion is the triggering factor. A person actually creates an habitual emotional charge that becomes addicting.

What emotions are you addicted to regularly? What problems do you face on a regular basis? What are the similarities of your problems? Do you have frequent but different types of money, relationship, or personal problems?”

Learn more about the connection between your mind, emotions and results in “The Mental Codes.”


How to Tell If The Person You’re Dating Is Rebounding

Rebounding often has a negative connotation, but rebounding is not necessarily negative. Relationships may end making us better or bitter. Over three decades as a licensed and marriage and family therapist, I have watched many people end relationships and move on to make healthier choices. The definition of rebound refers to an object hitting a hard surface and bouncing back. There can be healthy rebounds.

How can you tell if someone is rebounding in an unhealthy way into a new relationship?

What Is Their Attitude Toward the Last Relationship?

Since the opposite of love is not hate but indifference, a rebounding partner who still maintains a significant degree of anger is probably not ready to begin anew. Such people will need some time and space to understand the part they played in the former destructive relational dance that should not be repeated. When there remains inordinate shame and blame it is unlikely that a person is ready to move on.

Are You Trying to Rescue Them?

Another red flag is when the potential new partner continues to feel a need to rescue the person from the former relationship. If stuck in roles as rescuer, victim or a persecutor in relation to former partner it is unlikely he/she is ready to begin with someone new.

I will give you a couple examples of healthy and unhealthy and rebounds:

Jerry was a 50-year-old who initially came in for marriage counseling with his wife. In the process they made a decision to divorce. He remained in therapy for another six months and examined the part that he had played in behaviors that led to divorce. He had been critical and at times contemptuous of her and she responded by being defensive and building an emotional wall. He was determined to change those patterns in future relationships and met and married someone else the next year. He has gone on to create an extraordinarily strong marriage.

On the other hand, an example of an unhealthy rebound was a 35-year-old woman with two children who caustically blamed her husband for all their problems. She remained unwilling to look at her choices and part that she played in the destructive patterns. She rebounded quickly into another marriage after her divorce. In the beginning things went well because she ranted about her ex-husband and her new husband saw himself as of white knight who came to the rescue. Within two years, she began to blame her new husband for their problems and demonized him in her mind. Despite his willingness to work on the marriage, she separated and rebounded quickly into yet another relationship.

Rebounding is not, in and of itself, a bad thing. It depends upon one’s attitude and whether the person becomes bitter or better.

About Dr. Linda Miles

Dr. Linda Miles has worked in the field of mental health for over thirty years as psychotherapist, consultant, educator and writer.

She has appeared on national television, radio and in magazines such as Woman’s World, Parents and Entrepreneur. She wrote the award-winning book The New Marriage, Transcending the Happily Ever After Myth with her husband, Dr. Robert Miles. Recently she has published:

Dr. Miles has also served the mental health community through public service, including on the National Advisory Board of Access Technologies Social Simentor Model for Intervention with Autism and the Florida Commission on Support Initiatives for Marriage and Family. She has received several professional awards for her service, such as the “Outstanding Educator in Business and Industry” award from Florida State University and the “Outstanding Contributions to Knowledge in the Practice of Marriage and Family Therapy” award from the Tallahassee Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.

Dr. Miles has a continued passion for creating a better world through loving relationships. Visit her online at

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Does Your Life Have Meaning?

Does your life have meaning? Of course it does, it does for everyone. But most people don’t stop long enough to bring this life meaning to their subconscious mind.

Here’s an exercise you might want to consider. Answer the following questions

  1. What is the meaning of your life? What meaning do you want to give to your life?
  2. How can you create this specific meaning? What would need to be done for you to create this specific meaning to be an everyday part of your life?
  3. How would it make you to feel to live, support and grow this specific meaning into your life?

Don’t forget you have the power! Learn more about Existing In a State of Power here.

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Slaying the Green-Eyed Dragon: A Lesson in Jealousy

  • Do you discuss problems in your relationship with friends or family instead of with your partner?
  • Do you often find yourself feeling or acting judgmental towards your partner?
  • Do you allow negative feelings—about your partner or relationship—to fester, and discover that they are ignited or further fueled by conversations with friends and family?


Perhaps one of the most classic stories about secrecy and jealousy is that once penned by Shakespeare—the tragic tale of Othello. The play delves into the consequences of a closed communication within a relationship: hiding true feelings from one’s partner and instead discussing problems, concerns, and suspicions with other people who may not have your best interests—or your relationship’s best interests—at heart. Shakespeare’s play, as timeless today as it was when it was written in the early 1600’s, reveals a frightening scenario of what can ensue from marinating negative emotions—something that’s sadly all too common in our culture.

Othello, the protagonist of the play, is a black Moor and a General in the Venetian army who falls in love with the beautiful Caucasian Desdemona, an esteemed Senator’s daughter. Though they marry for love—and are both genuinely in love with one another—Othello can’t bring himself to truly believe in his good fortune. It seems he can’t believe and thus trust that Desdemona unconditionally loves him despite their cultural and social differences. Instead of sharing these emotions and thoughts with her, he instead marinates in his own insecurities. Worse, he confides in Iago—a man whom Othello considers a trustworthy friend, but who in fact has his own evil agenda to undermine the marriage due to his own jealousy at Othello’s success and the couple’s apparent happiness.

Iago proves to be greatly manipulative; as Othello opens up to him and shares his private insecurities, Iago fuels these insecurities and fears, ultimately convincing Othello that the lovely Desdemona has been an unfaithful wife. Othello, plagued by his fears, succumbs to jealousy; this jealousy, in turn, ignites such a rage in him that he actually murders his wife. Upon realizing—too late—Iago’s manipulative nature and lies, Othello then commits suicide.  

While this may seem like an extreme example of how insecurity, jealousy, and clinging to grievances all fuel resentment in the most lethal way, it is an apt representation of how marinating in negative emotions leads only to a darker perception of—and reaction to—reality. Life is, after all, 5% what happens to us and 95% how we react to it. Othello’s tragedy exemplifies the importance of examining personal insecurities, fears, and projections, and trying first to resolve them within a relationship before turning to those who feed off of—and contribute to—the negativity.  

“O! beware, my lord, of jealousy; It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock, the meat it feeds on.” –William Shakespeare, Othello


We are all human; we are each a living embodiment of light and shadow, of yin and yang. By looking objectively at ourselves and opening up to our partner about our journey, we move towards better and away from bitter. The NOW strategy reveals how Othello trapped himself in a downward spiral of toxic thoughts and feelings, allowing the negative influence of others to further chain him down…


  • Notice that Othello never asked the questions that he needed to directly ask his wife. He had nothing to lose—and everything to gain—if he’d approached Desdemona to talk to her about his fears and concerns from the very beginning. With open communication and mutual trust, they could have worked to forge an unbreakable bond that would ensure their lifelong commitment, love, and joy together. Even if (despite being driven by his doubts, fueled by Iago), Othello had thought to confront his wife at the last moment in a calm and reasonable manner, he would have given her a chance to open his eyes to the truth.  
  • Opportunities… were plentiful for Othello to see that he was clearly projecting his own insecurities on Desdemona; he did not see her as a unique woman and his worthy partner in whom he could confide—instead, she was the mirror for his deep-seated fears. Had he allowed himself to step back and examine more clearly his own feelings and the cause of those feelings, Othello would have given himself the opportunity to question his thoughts and reactions before reaching the point of no return.
  • Within… The biggest journey and battle Othello would have ever taken in his life—a famed Venetian General (and actually one of the first black heroes in English literature)—would be the journey of self-discovery. Such an exploration always begins within oneself. He could have discovered and deciphered the venomous stories he told himself and would then be able to choose to be better instead of bitter.

“Jealousy—tormenting yourself, for fear you should be tormented by another.” –Paul Chatfield


Relationships can truly make or break us—but their power to influence us is at whatever degree we give them; it depends on us. Through relationships, we have the power to grow and improve alongside our partner. The best relationships, indeed, are those that make you say “he/she makes me want to be a better person”—and ideally the feeling is mutual. It’s a journey you embark on together. It’s something you must work on daily, providing compassion for both yourself and your partner, exposing yourself and becoming vulnerable to true intimacy. It’s the only way to fully live.

Unlike Othello, it is best if you realize it sooner rather than later.

In my years as a psychotherapist, I’ve seen countless people turn away from their partner and seek, instead, the solace of friends and family, when their first choice should have been their partner. Too often, the problem escalates just because well-meaning people fuel the flames of fears and insecurities; these friends or family members may even have the best intentions, but they give bad advice just because they can’t imagine that that their loved one might be telling them only half of the story: their perception of the story, biased by grudges or insecurities.

I remember one couple that was undergoing therapy to overcome their toxic feelings towards each other, and I called out the husband because he clearly believed that he played no part in their destructive dance. My approach was to use humor to soften the blow; I turned and asked him: “You think you’re a cupcake, don’t you?” He laughed at the metaphor but I noted that it did hit home; from that day, he began tackling the very difficult task of examining the part that he played in their mutual grudge story, and then at last accepting accountability for his own actions. Years later after the therapy’s successful completion, I happened to run into him again; he told me that when his female neighbor had once visited and tried to complain about all her husband’s shortcomings, my former client told her to come back when she knew she was not a cupcake.

It’s remarkably easy to begin a destructive dance within a relationship. Mindfulness can prevent this by providing the self-awareness and focus needed to ground oneself—and therefore the ability to assess a situation and calmly respond. It provides these tools to change the dance steps. It enables responses, not reactions. Sometimes all it takes is sitting out the dance, learning to watch, and becoming curious about how it proceeds.

You can change your steps once you mind the music.  

“It is also good to love: because love is difficult. For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us … loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person (for what would a union be of two people who are unclarified, unfinished, and still incoherent?); it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in himself … for the sake of another person.” –Rainer Maria Rilke


In healthy and happy relationships, the rights of the individual are inexpiably tied to the family; members are able to be close yet separate. That is a dance which we work to perfect all our lives. The maxim, “Love one another as thyself” is a natural, guiding principle in successful relationships.

Do you love yourself? Othello’s insecurities, self-doubt, and self-loathing inevitably ate him alive. Learning to change your inner narrative is a challenging process, but the rewards are invaluable as you learn to live and act from a source of love instead of anger and fear. Through mindfulness practice, you learn to shine your inner light onto the world, casting it gently and without judgment.

When your partner hurts or angers you, use mindfulness to bring compassion to your partner by stepping back and watching how the dance between both of you unfolded. Seek to understand why your partner uses destructive steps and how you follow. Recall times that you might have done or said something similar and begin to see your partner and yourself as flawed human beings. As you soften your thoughts you will notice a shifting away from thinking of the other person as villain and you as victim.

  • Step back.
  • Seek to understand the pattern of the dance.
  • Recall times you have also mis-stepped; you, too, are beautifully flawed.
  • De-vilify your partner and de-victimize yourself; soften your thoughts by watching the dance objectively.
  • Choose a difference step; begin a different dance.

You will be better able to see the part you play in a negative dance and move in the direction of love and healing. A famous family therapist and researcher, Dr. Sue Johnson, notes that couples begin to change when they soften towards one another. Remember that healing your relationship begins by healing yourself; healing yourself is done by adjusting your perspective and mentality.

“The door to the human heart can be opened only from the inside.” –Spanish Proverb

How do couples keep the flames alive and glowing without burning out? How can you remain the best of lovers and the best of friends? Find out in Friendship On Fire.

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Secret to Attracting With Your Mind

I’d like to share with you the power of attracting things with your mind. The mind is like a magnet. No, it’s not like a regular magnet that attracts metals, but it does attract things. It attracts whatever you believe. Whatever you believe, the mind will be attracted to it. It will help to manifest it and attract the other things necessary to make it a reality in your life.

The mind is a magnet that attracts everything into an individual’s life. What is attracting into your life right now? Are they the things you really want? If not, then realize that you have the power to change your thinking to be more in line with attracting what you want into your life.

Try this Exercise…

Close your eyes. Envision lying on a beach. Smell the ocean air. Hear the waves crashing against the shore. Feel the warm sun beaming down. Hear seagulls off in the distance. All these things occur in your mind. Your mind doesn’t know if that’s your imagination, your belief or whether it’s really there.

It’s you that is the determining factor of saying if it’s real or not, but your mind doesn’t know. If you keep on envisioning that long enough, your mind will make that manifest into your life. It will attract different things to get you onto the beach, to make it a reality. It does that with everything in your life. Any successful person will tell you that their success started in the mind. Envisioning is the very first step in making anything from successful athletes to successful people.

Athletes can just sit there, close their eyes, and we can hook them up to electrodes. They can visualize participating in their sport, and we can look at the graph and see that their muscles are responding with electrical impulses as if that athlete is actually participating in their sport.

How is that occurring? The mind doesn’t know if the athlete is actually participating or not, so it’s sending electrical impulses to the muscles as if it is. The same goes with your life. The mind will send out the electrical impulses to the universe and attract back to you whatever you believe to be real.

What are you attracting in your life right now?

Remember the mind cannot pick up three words, “don’t,” “not,” “no.” If you are saying, “I don’t want to be overweight,” then the mind doesn’t hear the word “don’t.” It hears, “I want to be overweight.” So it starts to attract everything to make you overweight.

What do you do if you want to be healthier, wealthier or in a more loving relationship? Instead of saying what you don’t want concentrate on what you do want. That’s how you program the mind to attract things like a magnet. Instead of concentrating on not being overweight, concentrate on being healthy.

You constantly remind yourself, “I am in the process of being healthy.” If you just say “I am healthy,” the mind will say, “No you’re not. Look in the mirror.” It will kick it right out. But if you say, “I am in the process of being healthy” your mind will be receptive of that. As you constantly remind yourself of that, the mind will attract it into your life.

A lady named Joan said that she could not find a good relationship. She had looked for over 40 years for the perfect relationship. She had given up.

I suggested, “Why don’t you try attracting the perfect mate with your mind?” Constantly in your mind say, “I am in the process of finding the perfect mate.”

Now, I’m happy to say Joan not only found the perfect mate, but also the perfect mate says Joan’s perfect for him as well. That tells you the mind can attract whatever you’re thinking about.

The problem with the mind is that it is addicted to many things. Everyone has addictions. I’m not talking only about drug addicts or alcoholics. Everyone has addictions. The addiction is there because of the emotion that is produced from that addiction or habit. The emotion gives the person security, happiness or love. It’s the emotion we’re addicted to and not the habit.

You may think, “You’re mistaken, I don’t have any addictions.”

Do you drink coffee or tea? Do you watch TV? If you watch a program and say, “That’s my program,” guess what? You’re addicted to that program. Some people are addicted to the news or to Oprah.

What about food? Most people will only eat 5-7 specific meals. Every week, when they go grocery shopping, they shop for the same meals. If they go to a restaurant, they order the same meals.

secret attracting mindThey are addicted from a habit standpoint to those specific meals. There are many different foods out there, but they are addicted to those.

I bet you’re even addicted to sleeping on a specific side of your bed. Try switching over one time and see what happens. It’s amazing as we look at what our addictions are, because whatever you’re addicted to, that is where your life is at. You are at a stuck point because of your addictions. The only way you can achieve more or become more successful and experience more from life is to change your addictions.

Easier said than done. It’s important to note that when you start changing your addictions (whether they are good or bad ones), you may feel a grieving process. You may be angry or depressed initially. The mind is used to having that addiction in its life and it will register it as a loss – just as if you were in bereavement over losing an individual. That’s why if you change mattresses, for instance, the first couple nights are not so comfortable.

If changing a chair or some other furniture can trigger that feeling of loss, imagine changing some significant point or practices in your life that have been holding you back. You may feel a little uncomfortable, even by eliminating these counter-productive things in your life. Check the addictions in your life. Make sure they are in line with what you want to attract with your mind.

Decide what you want in your life, then create a burning desire to attract it with your mind. Keep going, keep going, keep attracting with that burning desire no matter what comes before you. Above all else, do it now. Do it right now, because if you start doing it now, you’ll start getting the life you want right now.

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